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RealTalk ATL Essay Winner: Nichole Wiggins

Nichole Wiggins
April 3, 2009

Marriage is a commitment when two people decide and feel that their love for one another is so intertwined that they are one. It is in my greatest opinion that these two people actually love one another, trust one another, and genuinely care about one another that they can stand the test of time. This bondage should never be tainted or besmirched because marriage is one of the best bonds that can happen to people; it means that you love someone beyond yourself unconditionally. 

I think that marriages fail because people do not realize the commitment they are about to make to one another. People do not consider that life has ups and downs and they must be ready to ride that roller coaster with one another and not walk away because life has changed certain aspects of their lives five years down the road. For example, if a couple is married and they are making about $80,000 together and then one losses their job and are unable to find employment for over five months then they must tough it out and make other arrangements in their lives, but splitting that sacred bond is not the answer. It is my personal belief that a person will not be with you or leave you for financial purposes if the relationship is based on unconditional love.

In summation, I whole heartily believe that it is possible to have a healthy marriage in the 21st century. If the bond is made for the right reasons, especially love, then determination to stay committed and a sense of loyalty, then those two people can stay in a healthy marriage. This bond is not for the weak and I am confident that humanity still has and will continue to have strong people who are willing to allow themselves to find the person that completes them. When you find that special someone you must consider a relationship built on trust, moral standards, a strong family, effective communication, and most importantly growth with one another. What sane person does not want to be this healthy?

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